Polarity is the magnetism, the passion, the “spark”, the ATTRACTION that happens between a man and a woman.
My last post 12 Things a Woman Does That Men Find Irresistible caused a lot of commotion on the internet.
But there was something thing tons of women were completely missing that I noticed from many of the discussions, blogs and boards.
They didn’t understand the WHAT attracts men and women together.
And it doesn’t really surprise me, but this is one of the MAIN reasons why most relationships today FAIL.
So, I need to address it.
Polarity is when a woman assumes her femininity in a relationship and then a man assumes his masculinity… and I hope this doesn’t sound like 50′s housewife lifestyle where the man goes off to work and the woman stays at home barefoot in the kitchen because…
The deeper the polarity, the more intense the attraction.
In other words the more what I call “YIN” FEMININE you are, the more HIGH QUALITY men will be MAGNETICALLY attracted to you.
Some of the qualities on that list could be beneficial to a man but thing is, this is a list for WOMEN.
Another was: “This stuff is common sense!”
“Common sense” is a dangerous thing, because once you have turned it into “common sense”, you become numb to it.
Then times change but you don’t.
You become stale and stiff like a corpse.
The whole sexual atmosphere of the world would be a completely different place if this were common sense.
Instead, most women live their relationships in FEAR, not love. And this fear creates massive depolarization and demagnetizing from men.
I wouldn’t call it common sense, but I would say it’s supposed to be natural and effortless.
You know, It’s INSANE what people can get away with saying on the Internet. A 759 pound balding hermit physically glued to his chair with absolutely no authority on a subject can give his opinion on weight loss and hair growth!
VERY IMPORTANT: The core of the masculine is fundamentally OPPOSITE from the core of the feminine.
While femininity rides on play, fun, love, feeling, and emotion, relationships, masculinity runs on confidence, meditativeness, strength, direction, purpose, understanding.
And everyone has their own balance of masculine/feminine inside, but you are either more masculine or more feminine.
If you want to see polarity in action, visit a high school football game.
The dainty cheerleader and the macho quarterback just can’t resist each other. It’s like some force “hypnotizes” them to pull towards each other. That force is so undeniably powerful.
That force is polarity.
Opposite energies attract. Instead of going with this, many women become immediately jealous, disguised and anger when they see a couple with polarity. But all the negativity makes it impossible to see past the cloud of anger to see what is really going on.
Polarity is even more important than having common interests. It’s crazy but true.
A man and a woman can have NOTHING in common, but if they have a strong polarity, they can’t resist each other.
I just recently heard about Ryan Reynolds and Alanis Morisette divorcing and I though “How were they even together in the first place??”
It seems like they have NOTHING in common. Ryan is the Frat Boy preppy type and Alanis is the man hating rebel with an attitude, yet STILL they could get it on for as long as their marriage lasted.
Now, if a man were to take and run with this list of 12 things, he’ll get some benefits, but he will cause a lot of trouble and anxiety for himself.
90% of the list is FEMININE energy. If a man went solely from the 12 things, any women he would date would be pulling her hair out thinking “I’m dating a chick!”
It’s a very subtle shift in energy.
When you are laughing, you are vulnerable. You are feminine for a second and not masculine.
When you a focused, you are unemotional and masculine in that second. For a man, the feminine qualities come AFTER he gets all his “manly man” stuff taken care of, otherwise he’ll be out of whack.
Now remember in my post The History of the Sexual World, Part 1, I explain that the sexes are in a phase of revenge conscious against each other.
In today’s world, more and more women are taking up the “masculine role” and more men are taking up the “feminine role”.
Women have become more dominant and men become more submissive (more on this in my post The History of the Sexual World, Part Deux! for more on this). Women have been repressed for centuries, and now post 2nd wave feminist movement, post sexual revolution, they have become more free… and more pissed off.
Watch an average TV sitcom today and you’ll see that men mess up everything.
50 years ago it was Lucy who was screwing up everything.
The times have moved on from a men repressing women to a post sexual revolution world… one that involves revenge against men.
The “polar roles”, instead of macho men being dominant to their submissive housewife, have become more equal.
Perfect, finally everybody is finally happy… aren’t they?
On the surface it’s a great thing, but look deeper and you will see that relationships are DYING.
There’s endless arguing, bickering, cheating, lying, hatred etc. etc.
Today’s relationships are a worse disaster than Hurricane Katrina, no joke.
In an episode of Sex and the City, Samantha ends up in a lesbian relationship which fails…
Most dead relationships are rooted in dead polarity, and dead polarity causes relationships to become tedious… and… well… dead.
Polarity is what you need to cause the spark of passion.
Did you ever use to play with those little circle magnets the size of coins? What happens when you have two of those little circle magnets with an equal charge? They would just sit there. They wouldn’t do anything like push away from each other or suck together. There’s no MAGNETISM.
And when you have the same charge, + and + for instance? They push away from each other. Two leaders together are repelled by each other. Two followers do a little better but there’s still something missing.
When you flip one over to -, and the other is still + they suction together.
Positive wants negative, masculine wants feminine.
But on the other hand, most men have never been so terrified of women!
Women should just loosen up and relax with their Yin nature instead of always trying to accomplish what comes unnatural to them. And men should find their confidence and find their yang nature.
The polarity, the attraction, the passion, the absolute magic comes rushing in when the polarity is right. If you’ve hear of the Law of Attraction, this is it at work.
Now if we want polarity, one person in the relationship has to be the leader and the other the follower, otherwise you will find endless power struggle.
Now listen, I’m not saying we go back to the 50′s. The 50′s are long over and dead. The relationships of the 50′s were totally unconscious. The relationships of today are unconscious. So, we move forward.
We move relationships into CONSCIOUSNESS.
We take what we’ve learned from history and move out of domination, revenge, possessiveness and move towards that thing that relationships are supposed to be about…
Relationships are mostly about 2 things, love and growth. Everything else comes second.
Even polarity is just a stepping stone along the way to it.
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