How to Get Your Controlling Boyfriend to STOP Being So Damn Controlling!
So you have a controlling boyfriend and you’ve read “Is He Controlling Me?” Signs of a Controlling Boyfriend and now you’re ready to learn how to get a man to STOP controlling you.
How do you get a controlling man, so controlling that it boils your insides, to give you as much freedom as you want and STILL give you attention, love and respect?
I’m about to show you a simple three step process to help reverse a man’s possessiveness, but STILL gets him giving you love and attention in a HEALTHY way… while helping to set him up to be the perfect MAN for you.
The question, how do you get a man to stop being so controlling and domineering?
Very carefully!
I’ve helped many women overcome this obstacle with men, and the thing is, when a man is possessive, he is at the same time insecure most most importantly distrustful… let’s just say he’s been more “emotionally stable” in other times in his life.
I want you to take all of that anger and frustration that you probably have towards him right now, and see if you could learn to be more COMPASSIONATE towards him. I want you to see things through HIS eyes.
It’s a tall order, I know, and you have every right to be angry and frustrated, but anger is not going to help give you a perfect relationship.
So, getting a man to stop controlling is like coaxing a wild bucking bull into calming down, but the more you understand the bull, the more successful you will be in understand how to make that bull trust you, respect you, and allow you to be free.
I don’t mean to make this sound difficult, but I want you to be prepared. When you’re dealing with insecurity and a lack of trust in a man, you must approach him in a specific way. So the first thing is…
1. Do The OPPOSITE Of What Most Women Do When In A Controlling Situation
What do most women do when in a controlling situation with a man?
Most women resent, get frustrated, sad, and become angry at the man for controlling her… and I’m not saying she doesn’t have every right to.
But the problem is this is the opposite of what is going to get him to become balanced and bring trust and respect to a relationship.
What works that most women never think of because of the sheer amounts of emotion they are feeling is to love him unconditionally and give HIM his freedom.
I know this isn’t what you were probably expecting or want to hear, so let me explain.
When a man is possessive and controlling, it can make a woman pissed off, get upset and bring a lot of pain and confusion to her.
But what happens when a women is in this negative emotional state, instead of a compassionate state, is they can often make themselves a target for being controlled.
Like often attracts like, and just as his controlling has brought negative emotional energy out of you, you are at the same time helping him to distrust more by your negative emotional state.
Why?
Because when a woman goes into a negative emotional state in a relationship, her actions mirror that emotional state.
What many women start doing when they are in a controlling situation with a man is they will first go through a period of sadness, but then feel angry and try to make him feel the same things that she feels and make him feel hurt or guilty for what he is doing.
Men can be real assholes, especially when they become controlling jerks, but the problem is this simply is the wrong direction to move in if you want to heal this situation and you love this man.
Often times when I’m doing a phone coaching session, women don’t believe me at first when I say their energy is helping to create the situation.
It’s hard for them to believe.
But their mind changes when I ask them to think about this: If you’re angry at a wild bull and start attacking it, do you think you’re going to calm him down or make him more angry?
Do you see what I mean?
Possessiveness in a man is a very primal reaction. It’s something men do when they feel insecure about their girlfriend staying loyal in a relationship.
So you must change your energy from anger to something else that will actually motivate him to loosen his grips.
If your energy is in anger at him for controlling you, he will only want to control you more and will get more angry.
When you react negatively against something a man does, you can often make the problem BIGGER.
If instead you do the opposite of this: stop, take a deep breath, and start looking for solutions instead of reacting emotionally, you will already be halfway home to healing this control issue… and it can be healed easily if you make this your foundation.
The first step you must take to prep the groundwork for bringing out of darkness is to accept him fully again. It is the exact right place to start. This will begin to change his entire energy towards you.
I know it’s a challenge and you have many reasons not to accept him, but it’s what must be done (and it’s not hard to learn how to love him unconditionally if you follow the Heart Consciousness exercises in Relationship Goddess).
If you can start to put your energy into compassion instead of anger, it will make things much easier.
I’ve seen this one simple step change many men instantly.
And if you accept him fully, jealousy, control, possessiveness and all, he will begin to make steps to accept YOU fully and your needs.
2. Turning The Tides In Your Favor
Have you ever gotten with a man you met, maybe you even slept with him, and you thought he was going to be a great boyfriend…but then he said something like “I’m not interested in a relationship right now.”
You didn’t know what to do or exactly how to feel, but you found yourself calling him often and feeling needy… then what you feared most happen: he pulled away from you and cut communication with you, and you never heard from him again?
Why did this happen?
You may not have suspected what caused it, but what caused him to withdraw completely was your unacceptable of him not wanting a relationship.
When he said “I’m not interested in a relationship” you might have reacted negatively and your feeling were hurt.
And I’m guessing that when he felt you feel that fear and resistance, that was the moment he knew for sure you weren’t “girlfriend material”, because men want a girl who can be cool with his needs and desires.
Chances are that same man was with another woman very shortly afterward, but this time he was asking her for a relationship…and it had nothing to do with age, physical attractiveness or even life circumstances.
What did she do that you didn’t?
And what does this have to do with a controlling man?
Because there’s an exact correlation to draw.
Simple fact: the more you resist a man you’re in a relationship with the more he’s going to act negatively towards you. It doesn’t matter if he’s controlling or not…. this is the bottom line.
And remember I’m not saying you don’t have a good reason, but there is no reason in the world good enough to allow you to feel negative and get what you want at the same time, because those negative emotions are going to keep you from getting what you want.
How your feelings affect the control situation is he’s going to feel like you’re slipping out of his grasp and begin making more attempts to control you.
Not good.
What to do?
I have a solution for you, but it’s going to take a lot of trust on your part to pull off, trust in me, trust in your boyfriend and mostly trust in yourself.
The answer is to go WITH the flow instead of against it.
Don’t try to swim upstream because you will only get more exhausted, disheartened and get NOWHERE.
When you are AGAINST something, you often STRENGTHEN it.
For instance, have you ever been in a fight with a man where he was resisting your point of view vehemently, and you were resisting his and the fight elevated? If one person were to bring compassion and understand into the fight and see it from the other’s perspective, the whole fight would immediately vanish… not only that, but then he would be 100 times more receptive to actually listening to YOUR perspective.
And by going with it, you’re NOT “giving in” to his control.
In fact, once again you’re making another step to prepare the ground for change.
In love, usually if we move in the OPPOSITE direction of what we think will work to actually get what we want.
One of the greatest minds the world has ever seen, Albert Einstein, once said “Any fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius – and a lot of courage – to move in the opposite direction”.
You will be surprised how quickly he will begin to trust you and lets go and starts to become “Mr. Right”.
By the way, this isn’t just a useful perspective for a controlling situation… this is a “holistic” perspective and should be at the foundation of all of your relationship engagements.
3. Stop Withholding Truth, Using “Tricks” Or Playing Games
Many men control because they unconsciously feel a woman is untrustworthy…so he will try to control you because he doesn’t TRUST you.
Sometimes his mistrust is based on the current relationship, but also can have been created from past relationships, or even his mother.
More often it’s a combination of all three of these.
One thing most women overlook is to earn his trust.
Yes, it’s that simple!
Most women think that when they get into a relationship with a man, they are entitled to his trust.
I’m not saying you aren’t trustworthy, only you know that for sure, but you must SHOW him that you are trustworthy.
Instead, most women actually break down the trust more by playing games with him and being dishonest with him.
The thing is, on some level in the unconscious we ALL know when someones is being less than honest with us even if consciously we appear to not.
Trust and respect are an unconscious phenomenon. The more a person deceives another, the more that person’s unconscious trust will be broken.
If you don’t take active steps to earn and establish his trust in you, he won’t let up.
And if he IS being controlling, you haven’t earned his trust and respect, and you are possibly doing things to AMPLIFY the situation.
Now listen, this isn’t your fault.
He’s grown up under different circumstances than you and has had different experiences with love and relationships.
But if you want this relationship and you love him, it’s up to you to make things change, because HE’S NOT GOING TO.
It’s too unpredictable to rely on him to change things right now without you getting the ball rolling.
Look, when he starts to trusts AND respect you, he WILL let off.
Not only will he let off…but he will find it a lot easier to get truly INTIMATE with you rather than holding back like he might be doing right now.
If you follow this basic three step process and use it on a daily basis, you WILL see things start to improve.
I’m not going to get into tips and “techniques” today because they’re probably going to trip you up and get in your way and I want to keep things simple.
I really hope this has helped you understand at least one more thing you can start doing right now that’s going to heal your relationship.
And do me a favor and leave me a comment in the box below so I can hear your thoughts, questions or successes with this material and if there’s anything more I can do to help you with your PERSONAL situation.
I want to get it down right for you…and make sure that you’re getting what you really need out of this, so be sure to leave me a comment.
Until next time and good luck.
With honor and love,
Brandon
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I also think going with the flow does change him drastically because I am in a similar situation where the father of my baby boy is controlling so I try and give him all the freedom he wants and all the time he needs by himself and he comes back to us at the end of the day. So I say biggups to the three step process
Nice!
Thanks guys for you’re comments
Yeah, I’ve seen “going with the flow” do AMAZING things.
Things like you wouldn’t believe
Controlling men have insecurities, fears, and low self-esteem. He does not trust you, He does not believe you. Being with him is like being in a prison where you have to watch your back constantly and walk on eggshells for fear of upsetting him. Why would you want a man like that? Life is simply too short to waste it on such a man. I recommend simply walking away.
Hi Kids,
First, thank you for your thought provoking communications.
Yeah, I’d have to agree with Kit. I mean we are a piece of the puzzle too, we have to be truthful and loving of our self and yeah we can put up with and dish out some crap, but guess I disagree with this strategy in a destructive circumstance that only we may decide.
I’m not the easiest person either, I have some quirks, I can’t help saying this but it does tie in with a previous article. Quess what? I fart sometimes. Can you believe it? I actually fart. It seems to me the majority of people cannot get past healthy biological normalities. Yeah, sometimes they (the farts) are kinda loud and sometimes they smell. OMG!!!
I think going with the “flow wolf” is generally a good idea in many circumstances. However , It seems to me the thing men avoid most is the old “Truth” face to face. Call it what you will. I’m tired of wars I’m tired of hatred and my fondest wish is for all people, women and men to work together toward understanding among each other. Sure toes will get stepped on, just not too hard — its only dancing.
I usually offer just a little too much truth, that pushes them away, for me it tells me the men from the boys. If they can’t handle the truth they sure can’t handle me.. I’m kind of indianish and I’m a rock hugger and I have a vision that includes mending of relationships and people working and playing together. “Love, exciting and nuuu, come on boarrrd, were expecting uuuu, Its Looovve Boooat, lalalalalalalaaaa. Personally, straight up, I’d rather be pushed away than left dangling. I do not withhold truth and I do not hold my breath. Peace and good wishes always. Love Grandma OX
Where there’s a will there’s a way. Dear Padre,
Your post “Relationship Game” has a very Christian flavor.
Having some mixed emotions on this. Naturally I feel it is essential in any relationship to be able to step in and try to understand other people and perspectives. At the same time I think there is such a thing as too much understanding, too much giving. Too much coddling can hinder growth and development. I truly believe for any person, nothing will ever be good enough until they are good enough for themselves. It gets easy to get stuck in a sinkhole of giving and setting aside personal needs, easy to be swallowed by the unsatiable. All children thirst and hunger for truth and some measure of understanding. We don’t just breath in or out, we do both, pretty basic stuff guys.. Women can easily lose their identity merging too much — too much merging will build resentment and anger. Sometimes a man needs to build bridges and get over them too,,, sometimes for no good reason. Understanding goes both ways. We are all in the same boat and it is not up to one or another, sometimes we give more and sometimes we need to know when we have given enough. Respectfully yours, Grandma OX
I did not see where to post a comment on this so if you would be so kind. Women have enough pressure and so do men. If we want to come together effort is needed on both sides. It doesn’t take much and if it takes too much we may choose a different course, we have choices.
Please don’t push it all on the women, I don’t like that.
PS. Thank you for helping me think and vent. This is a wonderful gift, have fun too. All ways.
Its gud and worth considering
Keep it up !
i hope to hear sumthing soon!!!
You need to leave him once and for all and live a life that u deserve???? how can u love someone who treats u like that?? hes a ASSHOLe DONT take this from him honestly
i read that whole thing and that sounds so painful honestly how could someone put u thru that . HE DESERVES TO BE ALONE. U DESERVE LOVE AND COMMITTMENT AND RESPECT AND HONOUR!
Why dont guys like talking about things ?because i try to talk to myfiance about things and he will ignore me and change the subject or make a joke about it . I did try to tell him about why he was doing that and why dont he talk and with out communication the relationship will go downhill and all he says is ok than he will kind of talk but if i say some thing he dont like he will ignore him and when i get him made by asking him the same question over and over again thinking he might get tired of me asking and start alking he says what do you want from me. HE also checks up on me to see who im talking to and he only lets me talk to certain boys and sometimes not even that like what is wrong with him but now what he tells me i cant do i tell him well you cant do it either most time he listen but other times he be like why im the boss i do what i want. but other times he says oh i cant do nothing no more well how he thinks i feel. one time he did someting and i got mad so i was like to think how i feel before you do stuff that affects me and he was no i dont think before i do nothing and i was like listen im about to be your wife you got to consider me like come on i dont know what to do he also blams things on me and say there my fault all the time it can be some one else fault if it affects him nope he tells me its mine. its like he dont care.And when he gets mad he calls me all type of names and things some times he be like oh you dont deserve me or any body that treat you good than he say oh i can do better than you and things all like that and than like i broke up with him a couple times and we got back together. than when i told him it was over again hewas like its always over with you and i let you come back to me so im the reason we still together like he tells me he dnt mean what he say but if he did he would stop when he relizes how it hurts me and he could at least come to me and appologize he dont even do that .
Yeah I feel stupid now lol.,. I have been doing everything wrong with my bf.. We just had a blow out and I told him off.. I am totally not honest with him as I guess I deserve what I get.
Sorry for the delayed response as my email’s been a little swamped and I haven’t checked this post in a while
Both you ladies Lisa and Laymari,
I want you to go download my Love Potion Spell Book and read up on the “Manhandling” formula NOW.
That’s for starters.
It’s free and you can download it here:
http://www.yintegrity.com/blog/the-love-potion-spell-book-special-report/
After you’ve read the whole thing (and there’s other great tips in their on getting men to act positively), I don’t want to “sell” on it too much, but you gotta pick up a copy of Relationship Rockstar (especially you Laymari). That one’s not free, but it’s worth the price of admission. You can find more info on that here:
http://www.yintegrity.com/store/relationship-rockstar-ebook
Lisa, as far as you’re situation goes, you’re situation is “red zone”, so careful on what kinds of brash actions you take. shoot me a personal email at my email address at Brandon@yintegrity.com and we’ll chat a little more about this and see what we can salvage. My heart’s with you in the mean time
I feel that I am honest with my boyfriend; almost overly honest with him. From the beginning of our relationship he had lied to me about a previous marriage that went bad. She cheated on him woth his cousin and told me that it was very hurtful. He said it was a part of his life that he closed and just wanted to forget about. He ended telling me about it before I found out about it on my own. This was a strain on our relationship and I understand that her cheating on him has brought more insecurities on him. He has become very controlling. I quite smoking b/c I wanted to but also with his forcefulness. He doesn’t like me to go out with my friends or do anything. I feel like he wants me all to his self and no one else can have any attention. He sometimes gets upset when I talk on the phone with friends and family. It is emotionally draining. I get very angry and upset. I feel like he tells me what I can and cannot do. The other day he even said that if I start going to bars with my friends again then its over! Is this something that ever he will get over. I will not be controlled and we get in fights over this, at times I give in but only because I am tired of fighting because of his behavior. What do you think about this situation?
i am a man with these issues and now our relationship is on the rocks, im now in pieces and dont know what to do, so turned to the internet to find some answers and get me back on the right track, it is true i have had a difficult childhood and my partner has stood by me during soome of those times, i have been with her for nearly 4 years and i am 19. i dont like treating her this way so want to do something to change and i have explained to her that i cant do it on my owne, but now i have found this advise on the net i hope it will work, we split up on the 15/5/09 and i haven’t seen her since and she is hardly speaking to me, but she is willing to see me tonight hopefully to make amends. i have appologised and told her i want to change but im not sure it has worked. i am going to show her this website and hope that she will see it is a common problem with men, this is not the first web site i have checked and i have many symptons of this problem. i love her soo much but sometimes i feel she doesn’t love me and she wants someone else but i know its not true, but with the problem i posses it is making it very difficult for us to get on. we have done nothing but argue for the past 4 months or so, and when some one sent her a message saying ‘they want to pay to see have sex’ and ‘i love it when you talk dirty to me’. this made it worse and the past month we have argued none stop since. i really do want to change i love her and dont want to loose her forever. i am sorry for how i have treated her and i hope she forgives me. i regret treating her this way and i bet bthat bthere many of other people out there that feel the same way as i do but are to ashamed to do anything about it. all you need to do is show them this website, so they can see it is a problem and its not the other partner. maybe they will then change just as much as you want them too.
im having so much problems with my boyfriend? can u help?….he told me i cant talk to anyguys and everytime i want to go into the subject he says just f*** it!!! gosh i dont even do anything like i went to the pool with my friends some guys n he started yelling at me and everytime he gets jelous he holds a grudge for at least a week n tries revenge with my best friend!!!! please help
Hi,
After reading your articles i think i’m a controlling boyfriend. I love my girlfriend and don’t want to be this kind of controlling guy. What can i do to stop myself?
The advice from the article above seems to be targeted for the girlfriend and what she can do, do you have any advice on what i could do?
And if i wanted her to read this article and your love spell potion book how would i do so? without seeming controlling?
thanks,
By ‘going with the flow” should I give in when my boyfriend doesnt want me to do something? My boyfriend will get upset about me going to the mall or taking a hike. I am afraid that by giving in and allowing him to control things like that then I will never be able to do the things I enjoy without him getting upset!!
I am experiencing a situation with a very controlling man who is sending mixed signals about whether he even wants to be with me or not. I’m really hoping to read more of this as I need help in understanding and knowing what to do.
thank you for all of this advice and it is very good material, most the time this works and they are good strategies,but there is a guy in my situation who is very stubborn, and hypocritical. I have done everything in my power to have his trust he knows passwords to everything, he gets people to spy on me to make sure im not “messing up” my cell just everything there is no way possible i can hide or have a personal life, but at the same time he is completely doing everything i cant do. and got really mad when i asked why he does it if i cant? bad idea yes, but i couldnt keep it up it is overwhelming and also hes not allowing me to see my own family, talk to my best friends that are always there for me and he expects me to drop it all and not only that but to be a bitch about it towards them its wayy to much drama (i hate drama) and if i dont he threatens to be done with me forget i even exist and he knows how much pain it gives me (anxiety attacks, depression, loss of appetite ect.) i love him but i really DO NOT deserve this at all he always has to be right and nothing he does is wrong its always me who is “immature, fake, stupid, bitchy, ect” he has had times where his ex would cheat on him and his father acts the same way to his mother (they are divorced). which i understand is hard but ive had many bad bad things occur in my life but never cause me to be controlling. we also broken up a few months ago because he cant handle “my ways anymore” but he still continuously controls me, i desperately need help, on either how to forget about him and how to move on or on how to have it stop. please and thank you.
This really helped me, but I still don’t exactly understand what you said about pretty much like letting him control me. You said to go with the flow and do what he says I guess, right? This was some great information and I’m definitely going to try it out but I just don’t see how letting him control me and tell me what to do will help anything.
im in a controlling relationhip… i went against what my parents wanted and got engaged even tho they said this would happen. in my culture once ur engaged ur stuck in that relationship for life.
i dont mind being with him because i love him but im just too depressed lately and dont know what to do..
he tells me im not allowed to go to certain places like a specific tim hortons just because people will talk shit if im there. or tell me im not allowed to be a waitress because too many people will hit on me. or get real mad if he sees me talking to a guy from school.
im 18 btw.
i dont know how to go with the flow.. i feel like thats putting my gaurd down and letting him control me and tell me what to do and i dont want him to get used to that and expect it from me you know.
its like he’s right about everything all the time.. he has this way of talking that always shuts me up and i dont know what to say anymore or how to fight back or get him to see my side of things, so he always wins in arguements, which there’s been alot of.
i dont agree with him for so many things and its like i cant defend myself or say whats on my mind cuz after he talks it all gets mixed up in my head and i dont know what i was thinking anymore or i do but i dont know how to say it.
now he puts me down alot for disagreeing with him which he never used to do by calling me stupid and stuff
i just dont know what to do anymore…. please help me
im not happy at all, i dont wanna live the rest of my life not being happy
I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR THE PAST 3 YRS WITH AN EXTREMELY OVERZEALOUS MAN. HE DID NOT START OUT THAT WAY, I MUST SAY THAT I AM PARTIALLY THE BLAME FOR HIS JEALOUSY. HE WAS ALWAYS JEALOUS, BUT NOT THAT WAY HE IS NOW. WE WERE TOGETHER FOR A YR. AND IT WAS A HARD YR HE WAS CONSTANTLY CHEATING ON ME. THEN HE WENT TO PRISON FOR 24 MOS OF WHICH HE SERVED 18 MOS. I CHEATED AND HE FOUND OUT. AND IT WAS HELL FOR THE WHOLE TIME HE WAS IN PRISON. HE VERBALLY ABUSED ME ON THE PHONE AND EVEN WHEN I WENT TO VISIT HIM IN THERE. I WAS THE ONLY ONE THERE FOR HIM, SENDING HIM MONEY, ACCEPTING CALLS, VISITING HIM ETC. SO HE GETS OUT, AND WE TRY TO GET ON THE RIGHT TRACK, BUT HE HAS SO MUCH BUILT UP ANGER IN HIM IT WAS HARD TO HIDE. SLOWLY IT STARTED EMERGING. HE BEGAN PHYSICALLY ABUSING ME AND ACCUSING ME OF CHEATING AND DOING ALL KINDS OF THINGS. ANY MAN THAT SPEAKES TO ME HE SAYS I’M SLEEPING WITH THEM.HE BEAT ME SO BAD INFRONT OF HIS MOTHER THAT SHE WAS SCARED. HIS SISTER HAS TOLD ME THAT REGARDLESS OF WHAT I DID I DINT DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THIS. HE CALLS ME NAMES AND MAKES JOKES ABOUT ME INFRONT OF COMPANY. ITS TO THE POINT TO WHERE I HATE TO GO HOME. HE TOLD ME TO PACK HIS THINGS LAST NIGHT AND THAT HE WOULD LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK, SO I SAID I AGREE AND HE SLAPPED ME. THEN HE HAD THE NERVE TO SAY PACK HIS FOOD HE BOUGHT AS WELL, WHEN I HAVE THREE CHILDRED TO FEED. HE TOOK MY CAR AND WAS WITH HIS FRIENDS WHO ARE ALL DOGS, AND TOLD ME THAT WE ARE NOT TOGETHER AND THATS WHY HE IS NOT SLEEPING WITH ME AND HE SAID HE WAS GOING TO GO AND HAVE SEX WITH SOME GIRL. HE TOLD ME THAT HIS FRIEND WOULD BRING ME MY CAR AS WELL AS PICK UP HIS THINGS. SO I PACKED HIS THINGS AND WAITED. LO AND BEHOLD I FELL ASLEEP AND WHEN I WOKE UP THIS MORNING HE WAS LAYING ON MY COUCH. I WANT TO LEAVE HIM BUT I’M SCARED. I WALK AROUND ON EGG SHELLS ALL DAY. AFRAID OF SETTING HIM OFF. I FEEL TRAPPED LIKE I AM IN PRISON. I HAVE TO BE CAREFUL WHAT I SAY OR DO BECAUSE HE ALWAYS TRIES TO OVER ANALYZE EVERY COMMENT OR ACTION AND TURNS IT INTO ME CHEATING ON HIM. IF THERE IS AN EXTRA WASH CLOTH IN THE BATHROOM HE SAYS ITS THE GUY I’M CHEATING WITHS CLOTH. I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO SCARED OF ANYONE IN MY LIFE. I WISH I HAD A WAY TO GET AWAY FROM HIM. I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT GOING TO A BATTERED WOMENS SHELTER BUT I HAVE A GOOD JOB AND CAN’T AFFORD TO LOSE IT. PLEASE HELP!!!!!
How do you deal with a man who invents lies and manipulates you into believing they’re true?
He has put me down so many times…
Tells me that he can’t trust me but won’t tell me WHY.
Sidesteps back to how spoiled my daughter is…that has no relevance to why you can or cannot trust someone.
And please tell me what almost 2 year old doesn’t throw a tantrum when she doesn’t get her way?
He has made me apologize for numerous things that I haven’t done…made me doubt myself as a mother and as a fiancé…all for him to BREAK up with me through facebook…..
Yet the amount of love I have for him surpasses all of his controlling tendencies.
And I would do anything to get him back.
Wow. I honestly didn’t think of that. But, since I have tried pretty much EVERYTHING else, I will try what you said to do and hopefully it will work. I am just so worried that it won’t, but if I am optimistic and sincere, then maybe it WILL work.