Be Careful of Which Emotions You Decide to Believe
Posted July 28, 2008 6 Comments
Emotions are blinding, especially fear.
Fear is one of the most blinding emotions because it will sit there and rationalize all of the reasons why you should be afraid.
This is why I say you should be careful of which emotions you decide to believe are true.
If you feel a feeling of fear for instance, it is very easy to believe that the feeling is justified when it is absolutely not.
An example: Many women I consult are afraid of their boyfriend leaving them. They become so afraid that they become paralyzed and do NOTHING to help the situation. They are so consumed with the fear they can hardly breathe.
Fear blinds you. It will tell you that the worst is happening when in fact it is not… and it’s even possible that just the opposite is happening.
Carl Jung, famed psychologist, tells of a story of an old poor man who discovered something MAGICAL while beginning to plow his farm for the start of the season.
This old man had NOTHING. He was dirt poor, his wife and children had just left him for another man and all he had was his farm, an ox and an old plow.
The old man started plowing his field when almost immediately his plow hit a large immovable object in the ground and immediately breaks his plow in two.
The man couldn’t believe it. It was all he had. He became so afraid and so angry. “What am I going to do now? I have nothing left!” He started crying and cursing god and was contemplating committing suicide… when he thought “What did my plow hit anyway?”
He walked over to the exact spot his broken-in-two plow struck and curiously saw a big shiny golden ring sticking up halfway out of the ground.
He thought “This is strange…”
He became curious and began digging the strange ring up but it was attached to something much larger stuck deeper in the ground.
He spent an hour digging and heaved it up out of the ground. It was a giant, heavy wooden chest, and when he cracked open he saw a chest filled the brim with gold doubloons , diamonds the size of fists, emeralds, rubies…
In his greatest defeat was his greatest triumph.
That’s to say that fear BLINDS. In your greatest fear is your greatest treasure.
Another emotions that would not suspect so easily to blind you is love.
Love blinds you in much the same way that fear does.
That’s why I always say that a woman MUST have some sort of meditation she practices if she’s to have any hope of having a decent relationship. She needs to own her own willpower and just do it.
If a woman is not careful, she can be RULED by her emotions and become completely asleep.
This is the feminine energy and why it’s rare to find balanced woman. Either she is entirely feminine and ruled by her fluid emotions or she is hard, masculine and fears and hates the feminine world.
The feminine world IS a scary, chaotic place. It’s so scary and chaotic most people don’t know what women want… not even women!
She feels fear and then believes the thoughts, she feels guilt and believes it, she feels anger and believes it.
She becomes BLIND.
And what do you think this blind view does to her love life, her relationship?
Instead of a bonfire burning to keep her warm, her emotions turn into a wildfire burning every tree, every animal, every sign of life to dust.
But the feminine world has great power to destroy and all the power to bring life. If you actually know what femininity is you can change almost everything of what goes on in your love life/dating/relationships.
A fire can either keep you alive or kill you. It can either bring you life at just the right temperature or destroy everything, and without fire, there is no life.
Thanks for listening to my psychobabble hocus-pocus and I’ll talk to you again soon. 
With honor,
Brandon
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This is a great post. Will you post another, taking some time to discuss what femininity really is and how to channel/focus that power for good, for life, so that it doesn’t become a wildfire that destroys everything?
I’d love to read more of your thoughts on this.
Thanks for posting!
David
i agree!
i’d like to read more about your thoughts on femininity from a man’s perspective…what does a man really want?
brandon, thx u again for the words of wisdom.
Yeah femininity is in deed an intense topic.
I’ve spent a lot of time figuring it out.
The weirdest part of femininity is that most people (even some people I REALLY respect) talk about it, they say turn back, forget it, it’s too insane to even begin to understand.
For the most part they are RIGHT.
The trouble with femininity is that it can never completely be solved. The puzzle is inherently unsolved because being unsolved is in the nature of yin.
I could go on and on about this but I think a post is in order.
Thanks guys for your questions.
Femininity is so intense that even most WOMEN don’t even get it :O
Then when a man asks them “what do you want!?”
They say “I don’t know!”
It sucks when a man gets angry at a woman for something she said in the past and she always says “I meant it when I said it” but the guy has no idea what this means.
Men are all about “their word” and their integrity… for the long term.
But femininity is ALWAYS changing from moment to moment.
One second you’re on top of the world and the VERY next you’re freaking out about getting and looking old, then the very NEXT second you’re thinking about your laundry and then the very next etc. ect.
I wish !!! For every woman who lacks integrity there exists 3.14 to the tenth power of men who never knew what integrity was or is. I cannot tell a lie. Now I have also examined the word Lie or Li, did you know li is of limen and not unlike a threshold? To me this is freaky. So basically truthful people are incurably happy and well the rest remains to be seen. Truthful people tend to like a little control. Not too much!! But even if we don’t get it, we just keep going, not unlike flowing or water. I was consoled by a tree lizard at the river today, it sure felt like love to me and it felt like that lizard understood me. The water at the river always helps. I love it. Back on track, women like me want a man who will be there for them too, a man who will TRY to understand and help and protect her once in a while. I’m having some “blockage” from my understanding tank. I’m tired of being understanding, I feel like that is all I do and I do a lot of understanding. You know sometimes ya got to put the foot down…..
Good night.
I don’t think you understand what the word “understanding”.
Understanding is not an act or an action.
Understanding is an EXPERIENCE, and if you are getting “tired” of understanding then you are completely missing the what understanding actually is.
If you actually understand, you can live a life of pure bliss. Understanding leads to compassion which leads to emmense energy building inside of you.
It leads to healed wounds and mended scares.
But the word “understanding” has been contaminated, poluted and dirtied.
And it’s not something that I’m going to get into right now because it would take me hours to write about it!
The simple fact is most people use “understanding” to GET something from people.
We want to “understand” a person so that we make that person like us a little more, or not get a person angry… we have ULTERIOR motives to “understanding” a person.
This doesn’t help you, it doesn’t help them and it makes a poluted environment for a relatioship to grow.
Like I always say, if you do something, do it FOR REAL.
Don’t fake doing it to get some side motive satisfied. THAT is what will lead you to being “tired” of understanding people.
Not only do you have ulterior motives, but you start allowing others to WALK on you… not good.
That’s very murky waters.
Then you become resentful of men. You tried to understand them but they didn’t and only “took advantage”. Now you are hurt, angry and don’t feel heard and understood yourself!
brandon, you’re heaven sent!
i have learned & continue to learn so much from you…
again, thank you!
many blessings!
*ms_smith