A breakup with the man you love is one of the most confusing, frustrating and devastating situation a woman can go through.
It seems like no matter what you do or how hard you try he doesn't want to be with you again.
He's seems to have completely lost any feelings he once had for you and there's no chance of getting it back.
This type of situation can APPEAR hopeless, but the good news is I've spent years researching the psychology behind breakups, why men choose to be with certain women and not others, and a woman can do to get her man thirst for a relationship again.
I've spent years researching breakups, male psychology and I've spent the last eight years coaching thousands of women from all around the world in their relationships, dating experiences and breakups and giving them the “key” to lasting success with men.
I need to tell you right now that I'm not going to “BS” and console you all day long about how hard it must be. We both already know that you're in a heart wrenching situation and you need help badly. So instead I'm going to get straight down to business and show you exactly what you need to do.
The fact is that it IS completely possible and MUCH EASIER than you may think to make your man feel that “spark” for you again AND want to be with you even after he's said something as brutal as “I don't love you anymore”.
You just have to tweak your approach to the situation.
You must understand that men experience love in a much different way than you do as a woman, and it's important for you as a woman to begin to understand what men want and what actually causes men to fall in love… This misunderstanding is the very source of all of your pain and frustration.
When you have the right understanding and knowledge, your actions will follow automatically.
The reason, by the way, why men say things like “I don't love you anymore” or “I don't want a relationship with you” has nothing to do with how he really feels. This is his logic taking over. But if you can target his EMOTIONS instead, you can surprise even him about how he feels about you.
You have to avoid the “traps” that most women fall for that prevent a man from coming back after a breakup, and you also have to know what to do to spark his interest again.
These techniques I'm about to share with you are very powerful, so please use them carefully.
1. He Subconsciously Wants A CHALLENGE
Men desire challenge, and it's such a deep and powerful process in a man that it goes below his awareness into his subconscious mind.
After years of studying psychology, I've found that on some deep subconscious level, he never wants to “win” completely. He always subconsciously wants some sort of gap.
It's basic male psychology that men VALUE that which is harder to achieve.
If you ask a man directly if this is true, he may tell you “no”.
Many men believe that they want an easy, relaxed life, and while there's nothing wrong with having a relaxed life, men don't always respond to a woman who he doesn't have to do much to achieve.
That's his LOGICAL side talking, not his emotional side… and if you watch what men SAY they want and what they ACTUALLY respond to, you will find two very different things.
If he knows that he has you completely, he's very likely to immediately lose interested, ESPECIALLY in a breakup situation because he's already decided he doesn't want to be with you anymore.
He wants the chase, the mystery, the excitement.
That's why it's important to plant the seed of doubt in his mind.
When he knows that you want you him and you can't live without him, there is no challenge or mystery left.
Not only that, but you're also allowing him to feel COMFORTABLE with the breakup.
It's much easier for him to leave when he knows that you can't live life normally without him.
If you begin to become slightly less available to him, you will start noticing a BIG difference in his attitude towards you.
BUT… you have to pull it off in the RIGHT way or you could end up hurting the situation, and add to the fact that it can be tricky to pull this off in a breakup situation given the fact that you two probably have much more limited contact now.
In my free “Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back” eLetter I'm going to help you with the details of the “how to's” of how to pull this off correctly.
2. Be UNPREDICTABLE In A Breakup
Men become bored, passionless and “commitment-phobic” when they know what's going to happen.
And just the opposite is true.
When a man doesn't know what a woman's next move will be, he becomes alive, alert and suddenly drawn in.
Why do you think guys wish to bring women into their life in the first place? Am I right?
A man brings a woman into his life in the hopes that she will bring adventure, excitement and unpredictability into his life (if you don't feel like you have these qualities, don't worry it's very easy to create this).
In the context of this breakup, being
unpredictable can create a sort of OBSESSION around you in his mind.
That's because he doesn't know where you are, what you're doing, if you like him or don't like him, and you're acting differently than he's used to.
Psychologically speaking, men become obsessive about something when it's unpredictable and they can't control it.
But you must understand how much is needed for your situation. Too much and you can upset him, not enough and you won't spark any fire in him.
You must find the BALANCE.
Again, that's what my “Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back” eLetter helps you do.
3. Create UNCERTAINTY Around Whether You Want Him Or Not
One of the biggest mistakes most women make with getting their ex-boyfriend back is letting you know that YOU WANT TO BE WITH HIM…
Now listen, I know that you love him. And I know you want to be with him, and you DESERVE to be with the man you love.
The problem is on an EMOTIONAL level, telling him you want to be with him gives him a sense of COMFORT for breaking up with.
Please read the above sentence again so it really sinks in… I'll wait….
He may be a great guy, but even so in the back of his mind he knows he's always got you in his back pocket if things don't work out for him so he's free to move as far away from you as he wants.
It's essential if you want your man back to take this feeling of comfort away.
You have to give him a feeling of uncertainty.
And it's not difficult with the tools I will give you in my “Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back” eLetter.
4. He Wants A Woman Who Is NON-NEEDY
One of the most attractive traits you can possess is truly not needing a man… ESPECIALLY if a man has broken up with you.
When you have an abundance mentality, you're unafraid of losing him, and you have a positive mentality that things WILL work out for you in the future, that's when you will be MOST LIKELY to get this man.
It's this attitude that captivates his interest.
Right now you're probably very afraid of losing him, and all sorts of fears are running through your head, like does he love you still, is he going to find someone else, are you going to be alone forever.
You must do yourself a favor and stop thinking in this way and think more POSITIVELY.
When he starts to get the feeling that you could take him or leave him, and he starts getting the sense from you that you know you deserve love and you can have someone very special, he will start trying to get YOUR attention instead of the other way around.
Your attitude trickles into your actions:
1. In all of your communications you're now relaxed, happy and carefree instead of tense, worried and holding on.
Human beings are VERY attuned to each others energy.
On a subconscious level, we INSTANTLY recognize a person's energy… even if their words contradict it.
If you want to stand any chance of getting this man back, you must be spontaneous, unpredictable, happy, light hearted, feminine and have a sense of humor.
You can't be those things if you are afraid to lose him and are attached to the outcome.
2. You're not bringing up the relationship anymore allowing him to relax and truly rethink things
Right now, I'm willing to bet he hasn't thought about things AT ALL.
You've sort of pressured him too much to think about the relationship. Perhaps not even with anything you've said directly, but your “energy” has said it for you.
The more you have “relationship” on your mind, the more your going to stop him from truly rethinking things.
Instead he will leap to conclusions and become stubborn about his decisions.
It's the same thing when a child asks for a toy over and over again and the parent keeps saying “no” over and over again.
Soon all the child has to say is “can I-” and the parent shouts “ughh NO!”
It becomes a reflex. The parent isn't even thinking about WHY they are saying “no” anymore.
The child will get the toy INDIRECTLY by being good and accomplishing goals.
Just how you will get the relationship back by going about it indirectly by exhibiting all of those qualities I mentioned above… But not directly.
So you might be thinking “HOW do I show him all of this?”.
Well that is what my best selling audio program “Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back” is for.
In it, I show you exactly WHAT TO DO given your situation and circumstances.
There are root circumstances that all situations fit into and I go through each of those situations in detail and show you exactly what to do to get him back, including but not limited to short term, long distance, and long term relationships.
This program is only for the truly SERIOUS woman who really wants to make things right in her love life.
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