Follow Brandon Martin’s Easy Advice To Quickly Become Irresistible To Men…

By Brandon Martin

How can you make a man attracted to you beyond your looks… attractive enough to see you as psychologically and emotionally irresistible… and how do you keep this long into a relationship?

The bigger question is why do men who seemed interested and connected with you suddenly become disinterested, pull away and shut down… and what can you do about it?

After years of coaching thousands of women around the world with these challenges and researching relationship dynamics and male psychology, I’ve discovered what causes that “spark” that makes a man see a woman as “the one”, and what causes a man to lose interest for seemingly no reason… and it’s not for the reasons most women think.

Unless you understand these “secrets” I’m about to share with you to being IRRESISTIBLE to a man, you will most likely deal with men pulling away, losing interest, avoiding commitment and even leaving.

Let’s get to it…

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #1: Avoiding Becoming Overly-Serious And Worrying

What I’ve found after coaching thousands of women over the years is that most women tend to become worried, overly-emotional, hurt and angry when a man does something stupid that hurts a woman in a relationship.

The problem is even though men do stupid things sometimes, and you have every right to feel what you’re feeling, if you lose your sense of humor and instead take your emotions out on a man for, example giving him the “silent treatment”, it can severely impact his level of attraction for you.

Being serious and sharing a deeper connection has it’s place (and is something I go into extensively in my free relationship advice eLetter), but when a man does things that hurt, like not being affectionate or not calling back quickly, most women become overly “serious” over the bad things they believe to be happening and lose that light-hearted fun they were originally bringing to the table that drew him in in the first place.

Men absolutely crave a woman who is light-hearted, doesn’t take things too seriously ESPECIALLY when things get rough and laughs at his stupid jokes simply out of a sensitive humorous bone.

A man’s face lights up to a woman laughter… and when men hear loud laughter, say, from a woman across a room for another man, it has the power to make him jealous… he wants that laughter to be for him.

Humor is like a BILLBOARD mounted to a woman’s forehead that says “I’m a catch!”

Men feel this on a gut level.

And just the opposite is true. If you’re becoming overly serious, worried, self-conscious and aren’t delivering light-hearted fun, your man is very likely to pull away and lose attraction for you.

If you’re really sensitive to humor, it’s an amazing find for a man. It’s something all men not just want but NEED in a woman.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #2: Allow Your “Youthfulness” To Lead

Most women believe that attraction and being irresistible to a man has to do with the age of their body.

In fact it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Youthfulness means a state of being innocent, childlike and unburdened from “responsibilities”.

It does not mean immaturity however.

Most women are very burned out inside from having to face the obligations of the world, and this has a very strong effect on how men will perceive you.

It may be difficult to get this into your head because women in our society are virtually “brainwashed” over and over to believe if their bodies are not young or pretty, they don’t stand a chance at captivating a man.

NOT TRUE… and I have many, many cases to back this up.

Youth is an attitude.

Men sense when a woman is fresh and has kept herself separate from the negativity of other’s opinions and when a woman has allowed herself to be burned out, burdened with obligations and has lost touch with the little girl within.

A child playing on the playground hasn’t been burdened by the world’s “adulthood” and “responsibilities” yet.

All she cares about is PLAYING… in the sand, swinging on the swings and having fun THIS moment. She is fresh, she doesn’t hold onto the past and isn’t living in the future.

It’s one thing to have responsibilities, and another thing to allow it to define who you are.

I’m always amazed when I see 18-year-old girls who feel 40, and then when I see 40-year-old women who feel 18.

It’s just a matter of learning what type of energy men are emotionally attracted to in a woman.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #3: Attractive Body Language

Behavioral psychologists say that body language composes 55% of all communication in relationships… vocal tonality being 38%,

And the actual words? A whopping 7%.

Pay close attention… words are only 7% of communication.

That means that 93% of ALL communication and signals that we receive from others is based on body language and vocal tonality.

If you only focus on “what do I say?”, you’re going to miss 93% of the whole puzzle of being highly attractive to a man.

I don’t have time right now to get too deep into this, but here’s the “magic formula” for body language.

Hips loose and tilted a bit forward, arch in the lower back allowing weight to release off the upper-back and fall onto the lower, shoulders and upper back relaxed, chest present, chin up… there’s more to this having more to do with “energy”, but we can’t get into this right now.

A smile tells a man on a gut level that you’re receptive and no smile says you’re “untouchable”.

Body language is a person’s “energetic pulse” to the world that says if a person feels good about herself or like a shipwreck.

You may have mixed feelings towards her (and I’m not her biggest fan either), but Paris Hilton has great body language.

If you can leave any weird feelings at the door and learn from her, I HIGHLY recommend checking her attractive body language secrets out.

When you learn how to have powerful body language with a man this is as close to “magic” as it gets with seeing men respond INSTANTLY with attraction.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #4: Avoiding Taking Your Negative Emotions Out On A Man

Most women end up allowing their negative emotions to build up and overflow in a relationship and inadvertently and uncontrollably take it out on a man. And while you and I know that you don’t necessarily mean to do this, it has a strong effect on how men respond or don’t respond to you, and this is where you’ll see a man pull away.

Most women don’t understand that when you become overly-emotional in a negative way without handling it on your own time, it will push a man away and cause him to shut down.

Expressing positive emotions in the right way has the power to get a man literally addicted to you.

This is one of the most powerful attraction secrets to men.

Men are attracted to their opposite, their POLAR opposite… the positively emotional yin feminine woman magnetically.

It just takes a retraining of your approach to men…

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #5: Avoid Being Impatient With A Man

Let’s face it, most women today have a borderline A.D.D. situation going on…

But seriously, most men are extremely grateful when they find a patient woman.

A.D.D. is cute to some guys at first (I find it hilarious and love to make light-hearted fun of women like this) but impatience can slowly turn into unnecessary frustration and emotional aggression when things aren’t happening fast enough.

What I’m talking about when I say patience is relaxing a little more and being more open to going with this flow of your relationship with him. This is the same attitude that rockstars have, and rockstars, whether male or female, are some of the most desired people on the planet earth.

Why is patience so valuable to being attractive to men? Because it is extremely RARE for a man to find a woman who is patient.

Here’s a secret about men most women will never understand.

Men are path, purpose and goal-oriented… Men value the vision they want to create in life above all else. It could be that he wants to start a family, travel the world, build a business… it could be anything.

But that’s not the point.

The point is when a man meets a woman, he secretly hopes that she will relax with his path. If she does he will literally feel that she completes him.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #6: Self-Care And Beauty

While I talk a lot about inner beauty, it is expecting too much to not keep yourself looking good and think that men will chase after you.

Beauty, healthy hair, good-looking skin, well-done makeup, healthy weight; these are the more superficial things men adore.

Most men are not looking for you to be a super model, they just want to know that you care about your presentation.

Now where most women get tripped up is believing that external beauty is everything… it is not.

Let me ask you something. Have you ever thought… what is beauty?

Beauty is the OUTWARD expressions of femininity, which men are attracted to like NOTHING else. This is why beauty is so powerful.

This is not good because you become an insecure ROLLERCOASTER seeking validation from men, and when you’re chasing after validation, you can’t be irresistible.

Here’s what I believe is needed ===> Balance, balance, balance.

Put some weight onto the other leg of INNER beauty. The fact is inner is just as important as outer.

And there is a way to becoming internally beautiful to men in a way that makes men RESPOND like crazy.

I have gorgeous supermodel female friends who agree that beauty is only one piece to the puzzle, but it is still a piece none the less.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #7: Intelligence

You are intelligent, I already know this.

I know this simply because you’re here right now looking to better your love life, and that is an intelligent thing to do… and it’s rare.

But what exactly do I mean by “intelligence”?

Well, I don’t necessarily mean book intellect, “street smarts” or being a philosopher.

I really mean a woman who is PRESENT and “here now”.

She is sharp, responsive, alive, witty and keeps a man on his toes.

If you drift into all of the bad stuff she’s done in the past and all of the regrets, and you constantly worry about the future, there’s a good chance that you’re having trouble being irresistible to men.

A woman who is present, you can look into her eyes and see that she is with you right here and now… not zoning off into space or thinking about the millions of thoughts that go through most women’s minds.

She responds to the moment… and this is an ability that every woman has.

A woman who is “with” a man is extremely attractive, desirable and irresistible to a man.

Unfortunately, most men will never experience this kind of women, so when she does come, well let’s just say, have you ever heard of those stories of guys proposing in the first 3 months?

There is a way to cultivate this aspect of yourself, and I believe you DO have this inside you… you just have to learn how to release it.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #8: Not “Needing” But Wanting

Many, many women fall into the trap of confusing liking, caring for and loving someone for being attached and needing that someone.

Loving someone and being attached to someone are not the same thing.

Let me help you to understand the difference.

Loving someone is when you are thinking about the other person’s needs and happiness while when you become attached to someone you think about how YOUR needs are not being fulfilled by this person.

Love is fearless and feelings joyous and attachment is fearful and feels bad.

Most guys can sense neediness, which usually causes them to run the other direction.

But they can also sense a girl who WANTS rather than needs.

What is the real difference between want and need?

Need is obliging the other person, that you can’t live without him, while want is being secure in yourself but liking that he be an addition to you, that you could live without him if need be.

I only know this by talking to thousands of guys about this.

A woman who has the self-confidence enough to want, to desire, and not be attached gets the love from any man she wants.

Most women are in fact needy, and it’s not their fault (it has to do with many factors), but it is completely possible to learn to have confidence and security in yourself.

If you deal with neediness on a day-to-day basis and want to learn how to become self-confident and free of fear, anxiety, neediness, self-doubt or jealousy, then check out my emotional balancing tips.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #9: Nurturance

Most men enjoy independence in a woman, but men also secretly like to feel taken care of as well.

To most women this comes naturally. The problem is when a man does something hurtful to a woman, she has a tendency to begin to withhold this quality out of either fear or anger.

Osho, an enlightened Indian mystic, once said “a man’s life is a journey to find the happiness he once felt inside the womb of his mother.”

Very deep stuff.

Could you imagine the repercussions if you were able to make him feel this way? You wouldn’t be able to get rid of him!

And there are ways to make him feel this way that I don’t have time to get into right now (that’s what my free email newsletter and programs are for).

The great thing is nurturance is one of your most basic female instincts… Most guys do want that little tiny bit of mommy in a girlfriend.

But because of society, “responsibilities” and the resentment that most women feel unconsciously towards men, women end up losing touch with this part of themselves.

If you’re not nurturing to a man, there’s a good chance that he will feel a level of distrust in your ability to fulfill him emotionally.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #10: Sexually Adventurous

Sexual repression makes people very, very… VERY angry and afraid.

Scientists, presidents, poets, hot guys and musicians all agree.

By sexually adventurous I do NOT mean having sex with every person in sight, or having fivesomes in a bathroom stall on Hollywood Blvd.

I simply mean being RELAXED about sex instead of tense, nervous or rejecting of it… and never using it or withholding it as a tool to make a man give you love… because it simply does nothing to make him feel irresistibly in love and attracted to you… in fact it will do the opposite.

If you are alive sexually, you will cause a man to feel a deep sense that you are different from other girls.

He never knows what’s going to happen next… and what happens in the bedrooms carries in a relationship.

If you’re not adventurous sexually, unpredictable and spontaneous then the relationship will turn cold.

Sex is the barometer of a relationship, and what you bring to it will decide how irresistible your man will find you.

It’s easier than you might think to cultivate this way of being, you just have to know how.
 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #11: Love

Love… there is not a more significant word in the English language.

But what do I mean about love in the context of making men irresistibly attracted and in love with you?

There seem to be two types of people.

One who live life in fear, and the other who lives life in love.

Most people tend to live life in fear. Fear of being left, fear of not getting love, fear of not being loved, fear of being cheated on fear of being left, and the list goes on.

Believe it or not, living in constant fear and worry can kill a man’s attraction for you and cause him to pull away.

Men universally are attracted to a woman who lives a life of love, positivity, joy, creativity and keeps worry and fear to a minimum.

But the fact is that this type of woman is rare. Unfortunately most women live in constant fear, worry, self-judgment, guilt and anxiety.

Further, when you base your actions with men off of fear-based emotions, you’re bound to act in a way that causes men to lose attraction and love for you.

Living in love has to be learned… and it can be learned.

A woman filled with love in her heart, who sees dance, celebration and music everywhere she goes is one of the most beautiful things in the world to a man.

Love is not weakness, it is PURE POWER.

 

What Men Find Irresistible Secret #12: Integrity

A woman who has real values and sticks up for herself is like a beacon of light to a man.

When you say one thing and do another with a man, you will lose his trust and respect… two very critical ingredients of being irresistible to a man.

For instance many women will tell a friend they love them, and then talk negatively about them behind their back to gain approval from other friends. I have to sit down with them and get them thinking of what they stand for and believe in… and becoming more fearless about not getting everyone’s approval.

Most women don’t understand why they feel so much insecurity and constant worry in life.

It’s because they have never developed a sense of integrity and the feeling of self-respect and love that comes with it.

Most men don’t value women who don’t value themselves.

Having integrity gives you a sense of power that nothing else can give you.

Integrity creates sanity. It’s one of the few things you come into the world with, and its one of the easiest things to take for granted and sell to try to be accepted by other people.

On the other hand, if you build too many walls around yourself and try to become “all powerful” you lose your delicacy, your female beauty and then you lose your attractiveness to men. I’ve seen this happen to too many women.

It’s a delicate balance and you must understand how to balance it correctly.

Here’s a simple list I suggest you start with:

a. Your Health. Your mind, body and soul come FIRST. Without you there is nothing else so you must be kept in good shape and happy.

b. Love. Love is one of the highest values. Love comes BEFORE pleasure although most people reverse them. There is nothing worth sticking up for more than love. Not pleasure, sex, money or anything else.

c. Freedom. Never be a slave to anybody, even if you feel like you want to, and never allow your to have any slaves. You are a free being, and men want to see this in you.

d. Pleasure. Celebration comes naturally after all of these things come first. Most people put pleasure as their number one. They will abuse their bodies, weaken their integrity and sell their soul to have it. Most people are not in pursuit of happiness, they are in pursuit of PLEASURE…but that pleasure is always accompanied by pain. There’s an endless roller-coaster of pleasure/pain when it becomes number one. However, pleasure comes naturally when it comes after other more important things… like having the “know how” to sustain a long LASTING relationship (if you have my book, you know exactly what I’m talking about).

This is just the very tip of the iceberg, and I’ve done my best to condense a lot of very important information into a short article.

There is a lot more you must understand if you’re to make a man find you irresistible, feel emotionally attracted, and wanting to be and stay in a relationship with you… and you must know what to AVOID that makes a man fall out of love, lose attraction, shut down and even leave.

That’s why I created my free relationship advice eLetter where I’ll share with you all of my most powerful secrets about men and relationships.

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- The inside “secrets” of male psychology, and exactly how to get your man’s unconditional love
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Have an amazing day and I’ll talk to you soon.

Blessings,

Brandon